Why do good girls go for bad boys? Part 1

It is a regularly used phrase by thousands if not millions of women across the globe that they always seem to go for the “bad boy” even though they know it is not right or a good relationship move, yet they still do, the questions begs as to why??
There are a great many reasons for this to happen and in this article we are going to cover one of the most powerful.

The human drive is one that nobody can avoid, even the effect of drugs and alcohol eventually pale in comparison to the human spirit. Nature by its very design is made for us to connect to each other; in fact the very survival of our race depends on it.

The phrase “only the strongest survive” is very apt here and although this can come with some debate issues, it is a very real need for us to associate with the strongest and skilful of those in our social circle. The purpose of doing this can take us back to survival itself, given that our lives can be sometimes very unstable or volatile can lead to the feelings of doubt and/or insecurity, this doesn’t even have to mean that we see ourselves as weak, but if there is only one of us to look after our home, how could we ever truly rest? Who would guard us and support us when we sleep or are ill?

To explain the “good girls/bad boys” question, we must revisit the “hunter/gatherer” (Men provide food and Women support the home/nest) and although in some people the mere mention of this can be seen as sexist, this mindset has been with us for thousands of generations and in many cases is built into our genetics and no matter how much a person may deny this the fact, it still remains that this has been a huge part of our evolution up to date and although we have a great deal of control of our lives with our minds, our genetic make-up still determines a great deal. This is where the bad boy attitude can play a huge part in attracting a partner.

Perception is reality! If we observe the bad boy and his attitude, it can appear that he is the king of the crop, the provider, the hero who may leap into a burning building to save a child and then cuddle up to the woman he loves all in one swoop, a real Man’s man but with the hint that he has a heart full of love and will put others first and if this is displayed who would (male or female) not want to be around that? Genetics take over and the rest is history….

So why the disaster?
Remember perception is reality, just because a bad boy displays these heroic attitude does not mean that he is one. It is easy to copy moves and hint that he is the leader, a subtle word here, a posh car there all go to building the reputation of the hero and if displayed in a certain way many would not even question it as to some questioning the bad boy could even question the dream that they don’t exist.

True heroes do exist but so many can act in a certain way and appear and as we all know appearances can be deceiving

Never judge a person by the style of the armour, but by the heart that is behind it!