It is a well known fact that millions of people all over the world suffer the agonising pain of feeling of rejection after the euphoric high of feeling desired in everyway by a “new love”. Many describe it like that of a rollercoaster a high and a swooping low, but with the low comes lots of pain, pain that makes some people curl up into a little ball wanting it to all go away.

But is there any game play going on here, in many cases it is not something that the rejecter will be aware of but it may be a power play all the same. This game can be played on anybody of any age, male or female. So lets look more closely at the potential game
It is so natural to be desired and wanted – it is human trait, even so far as to class it as genetic, but the desires we have can be manipulated if the other person has learned how to.

Take note of the following steps to ensure you don’t get caught

Stage 1, Hook: Is the initial hook where the level of excitement is high, where both people want to be desired by the other, this could be a first meeting or the fun and games of getting together but not actually together – the “what is going to happen next?”

Stage 2, Connection: The connection has now been made and the levels of being desired are getting to the peak, and the honeymoon period is in full swing.

Stage 3, Fracture: This is when the honeymoon period slows a little or one of the two wants to start taking control. The controller wants to be desired and may have a fear that there will never be enough desire or simply want to be lusted after to feel in control of another person.

Stage 4, Rejection: This stage is the one where the person who desires control will have created a level of desire from the other person by being affectionate, lustful, the promise of exclusive pleasure such as sex or sharing intimate information. Having the feeling of being totally accepted leaves the other person feeling secure and they let down their guard, but when this is suddenly taken away the person feels a shock wave and very unsettled.

Stage 5, The needy hunger: Stage five is where the other person has sharply had their security taken away by the other person leaving and then want to restore that loss by trying to gain the one who wants control back, but the unfortunate reality is that the more the hurt party gives the controller attention, the more payoffs the controller is getting leading to an almost futile game of cat and mouse going round and round.

Note: In many cases both parties have no idea what is happening and it is usually a sub-conscious game. If you feel you have been caught in this before, read each step carefully and see what it was that caught you.